Leaving The "Distinctive" Lifestyle -- Regaining Farm-Family Values In A High-Tech World

world of lengthening commutes, longerin virtual, legitimate work opportunities overall,
workweeks, and high-stress, gridlocked suburbanwhich coincides with the spread of broadband
sprawl, we may often wonder about theInternet and the outsourcing phenomenon. Now,
undeclared "values" that are motivating us to livewe're encountering a wider variety of "virtual
the way we do (and how to get back on theemployee" positions (full-time, home-based work
right track).from a fixed employer), freelance work (e.g.,
When we find ourselves envying the gleamingproofreading, editing, graphic artwork, and help
new SUV in the next lane over, or the largerdesk specialists, along with the conventional
home a friend has just bought, or the privateWebsite design projects), and virtual teaching
university tuition the neighbors can afford, it maypositions (community colleges and distance learning
help us to stand back and ask ourselves aboutinstitutions, for example), as well as the online
the "distinctive" lifestyles that so many of ustutoring of individuals (elementary school and up).
seem to yearn for, and the sacrifices in familyEqually impressive is the emergence of the Ebay
togetherness, joy, and satisfaction that the"mompreneurs," as detailed in an article in the June
"distinctive" lifestyle demands.7, 2004, issue of Business Week ("The Rise of
Indeed, after some thought on the trade-offs --the Mompreneurs"). The article, which is available
pollution, rampant materialism, rootless waves ofat the Business Week site ( contains the following
people ebbing and flowing around us and oureye-opening statistics:
children -- you may well conclude that the"Today, upwards of 430,000 people in the U.S.
"distinctive suburban way of life" everyone isalone -- more than are employed worldwide by
chasing is actually what we have come to call theGeneral Electric Co. (GE ) and Procter &
DISTINCTIVE suburban way of life: Dual IncomeGamble combined -- earn a full- or part-time living
Striving to Impress Neighbors and Co-workerson eBay selling everything from fashion to farm
yet Tormented by Increasing Vexation andequipment, with the highest-sellers grossing up to
Emptiness.$1 million a month."
With this in mind, maybe instead of trying to liveHOW DOES THIS AFFECT THE FAMILY?
the distinctive lifestyle, we should be trying toAs you might guess, these trends have significant
leave the distinctive lifestyle.potential consequences for the family, and not
TELEWORK & FARM-FAMILY VALUESonly in the realm of homeschooling and other
It's one of the great ironies of the high-techpreferences. First, if at least one parent has a skill
world: We leave our small towns and farms --that is "virtually marketable," then
sacrificing family life, roots, and healthy values --* that parent may now stay home with the
to settle in sprawling suburbs close tochildren;
technology-enabled jobs, and now technology is* the family may now be free to move to a
allowing us to return to small towns and farms,more family-friendly location;
and rediscover the joy and strength of family and* the stresses of the two-commuter life -- and
neighborhood bonds.their toll on the couple and the family -- will be
How is this happening? Virtual work. With thesignificantly reduced; and
spread of the Internet and broadband* the children will be able to learn valuable
communications, coinciding with the strong growthwork-related lessons firsthand, from the best
of outsourcing, it's becoming easier and easier toteacher of all -- a parent.
stay at home and earn a decent living doingWHAT DOES THE FUTURE HOLD?
interesting, legitimate work. No longer must bothAlthough no one can predict the future -- and
parents in a family commute to an office. (It mayworking from home, be it as a freelancer or an
help put things in perspective by considering thatemployee, is certainly not for everyone -- these
work is no longer a "place," but an activity.)trends do indicate that the old-style concept of
Indeed, as far-fetched as it sounds, it's now"telecommuting" (an employee working at home a
possible for both parents -- depending on theirfew days per month) is steadily being overtaken
qualifications, of course -- to get off the "gerbilby a radically different model: full-time,
wheel" of suburban living altogether, and work athome-based virtual careers, founded on a
home pretty much wherever they choose.steadily-growing supply of legitimate virtual-work
VIRTUAL ASSISTANTS, VIRTUALopportunities. Moreover, additional progress in
PROFESSIONALS, and JETBLUE AIRWAYScommunication technologies will soon enable
The virtual work movement has come a longreal-time, high-definition interviews between virtual
way since the birth of the Virtual Assistantworkers and their hirers (even cell phones can
industry in the mid-1990s. (Virtual Assistants, ifalready transmit and receive videos), which will
you're unfamiliar with the term, are independentfurther accelerate these trends.
contractors who provide business-supportSince virtual workers can be based anywhere,
services to other small businesses andthese trends carry obvious potential
independent professionals via email, phone, faxconsequences for rural areas and small-town life,
and courier.) In those days, it was highly unusualand again by extension, the family. The transient,
to find someone working from home exclusively,anonymous suburban "communities" that now
and using email and other electronic tools tohouse over 80% of Americans (essentially, ghost
handle workflow from faraway clients. It was alsotowns by day, motels by night) no longer need be
unusual to find anyone handling other thanthe only alternative for working parents and their
administrative-oriented projects.families. A virtual worker can operate from a
Today, however, virtual workers under manytown in rural Kansas, an island off Maine, a farm in
guises -- Virtual Assistants, Virtual Professionals,Nebraska, or even a houseboat on a Minnesota
Virtual Service Providers, Virtual Freelancers, etc.lake.
-- offer well over 80 areas of expertise, rangingMoreover, in addition to the mobility, the virtual
from word processing and bookkeeping toworker enjoys several significant advantages, not
high-end corporate consulting, psychotherapy andthe least of which is savings on auto-related
even surgical assistance. And while most of theseexpenses. Perhaps most important is that he or
workers are independent contractors, companiesshe is not locked in to local wages or other
such as JetBlue, AIG and Travelers now actuallyeconomic conditions. The small town in Kansas
require that many of their employees (primarily(whose three-bedroom homes, with emigration,
"call center" personnel) work from home almost allhave fallen to rock-bottom prices), can be a
the time.lovely place for a family whose employer or
WHO HIRES "VIRTUAL HELP"?clients live in Manhattan, or London, or Los
Because smaller businesses are usually moreAngeles, or even Kansas City, where hourly fees
ready to innovate and embrace change than arefor business services are much higher than they
their larger, Fortune 500 brethren (whosewould be locally.
processes and outlook become rigid throughWHERE TO LEARN MORE
custom and age), the majority of VirtualThe best place to learn more about virtual
Assistants work with young companies and soloopportunities is (of course) online. A few Google
professionals, such as Realtors, smaller law firms,searches using such terms as "telework," "virtual
import-export firms, and professional speakers.assistant" and "freelance" will point you in the right
VAs may also provide one-to-one support todirection. A visit to such organizations as
senior management in larger companies (i.e., as aStaffcentrix ( the International Virtual Assistants
virtual "executive administrative assistant" to aAssociation (the industry association for VAs, at
Vice President).and the International Telework Association &
Similarly, virtual workers with advanced degreesCouncil ( will also help fill in the gaps.
(aka Virtual Professionals) often offer consultingAlthough it may feel like a "brave new world" at
services to smaller outfits and soloists (think of afirst, the world of virtual work is already
marketing consultant, for example, advising apopulated with a host of potential friends,
company on its marketing or advertisingsupporters, and erstwhile pioneers, who long ago
strategies), and virtual workers in a professionalsettled the frontier. Although not without its risks,
niche such as medicine (e.g., an RN or MD) mayyou may very well discover that it holds the keys
also consult to insurance firms, malpractice lawto a lifestyle you and your family always thought
firms, and hospitals.might only be a dream. But regardless of your
A WIDENING TRENDpath, we wish success to you and to those who
As we enter our ninth year of research in thistake so many cues from how you live and what
field, most exciting to us is the broadening we seeyou choose to do -- your children.