When Calling in Sick is Not an Option

The phone was ringing and I couldn't find thelowest I knew the necessary tasks were taken
energy to answer it. I knew I should answer,care of.
needed to answer, but couldn't summon theIf your kids are old enough you can "outsource"
strength necessary. I'd been fighting thesome additional chores to them while you're
discouragement and frustration of a lingering illnesshealing. My six-year old was such a great source
for months and didn't see any end in sight.of hope and help to me. By helping me more than
Doctor's said I'd see an improvement within sixusual with tasks like laundry, vacuuming and even
months of beginning this new medicine, but acooking (she can put crescent rolls on a cookie
month in and nothing felt different, in fact, I feltsheet better than any other six-year old I know),
worse. I couldn't imagine how my business wasshe felt like she was assisting in my recovery. So
going to survive if something didn't change soon.often our kids feel helpless, like there is no way
Dealing with sickness as a mom is alwaysthat they can help us when we're ill. This was a
challenging. When you add in the responsibilities ofwonderful way for her to feel needed and helpful.
a business it can feel downright impossible. As ILet your family help.
dealt with my health problems over the course ofDuring the months that I dealt with health
the last year, I've found a few ways to keep myproblems, my family played a crucial role in
business afloat while I'm healing.keeping my business afloat. My husband would
Schedule your time in small chunks.often take the kids out to dinner or simply
During the toughest weeks of my illness, I wouldoutside to play, giving me time to rest and work
set daily goals like "work for one hour" and "workif I felt up to it.
on laundry." By giving myself small goals like theseGrandma, too, comes in especially handy if she's
I was almost always able to achieve them. It isavailable and willing. Although, a neighbor or good
amazing how crossing things off from my to-dofriend may be willing to help out when needed.
list helped me to feel productive. My efficiencyDon't take on too much.
was a far cry from what it normally is, but I feltEven when you're feeling your best it's important
encouraged by these accomplishments.to learn the art of saying no. Know your limits and
It's also imperative to schedule specific times todon't go overboard - even with good activities.
rest. Despite the fact that I was sick, I felt guiltyWhen you're dealing with sickness, it's imperative
for feeling so tired all of the time. By penciling inthat you be honest with yourself about your
fifteen minutes or so at a time to rest, I waslimits. Don't try to take on all that you would
freed from the guilt. It became one more item towere you well.
check off of my daily to-do list.When faced with making a decision about a new
The extra benefit was that scheduling it in helpedproject or other activity you're considering, write
my three-year old to adjust to these short napout your schedule and take a close look at it. Can
times. I would lay on the couch and rest and heyou afford to add anything? Is there anything
would sit with me and watch a movie or play thethat can be cut?
Wii. This way I always knew where he was andBe nice to yourself.
he knew I was there for him if he needed me.Take the time to treat yourself to a small reward
Outsource as much as possible.near the end of each day. This can be something
My virtual assistant (VA), without even beingas simple as taking a bubble bath or going out for
aware of it, was crucial to me during this time.fast food instead of cooking. Don't let guilt
She was able to take on some of the tasks thatoverwhelm you. Remember, the better care you
I do on a regular basis. What a relief to know thattake of yourself, the more energy you'll have for
I could count on her to do the things that HAD tothose tasks like cooking and laundry that now
be done. Even the weeks when I was at myseem exhausting.